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Hosting a Thanksgiving Gathering? Tips for Having Safe and Supportive Conversations


Hosting a Thanksgiving Gathering? Tips for Having Safe and Supportive Conversations

Thanksgiving brings family and friends together, a cherished time for sharing meals, laughter, and memories. Yet, as we gather, conversations can sometimes drift toward sensitive topics, and for some, certain subjects—like sexual violence—can be deeply personal and even triggering. This holiday season, let’s create an environment where all voices feel heard and valued by holding space for mindful and supportive conversations.


Here are some thoughtful ways to keep your Thanksgiving gathering a place of comfort, love, and support:


1. Set an Intentional Tone for Your Gathering


Set an Intentional Tone for Your Gathering, The Turning Point

Before the day begins, take a few moments to set an intention for your gathering. Think about creating an atmosphere where everyone feels safe and valued. You might share your intention with guests in advance, letting them know that this is a space for kindness, empathy, and respect. An open-hearted welcome like, “Today’s all about togetherness and supporting each other,” can encourage everyone to bring their best selves and a positive spirit to the table.


2. Check in with Guests Privately Beforehand


If you’re aware that someone joining your gathering has experienced trauma or might find certain topics difficult, consider checking in with them privately. Ask if there’s anything you can do to make them feel more comfortable or if there are topics they’d rather avoid. A simple message like, “I want to make sure you feel at ease; let me know if there’s anything I can do to support you,” can go a long way in showing you care.


3. Guide Conversations Mindfully and Respectfully


Guide Conversations Mindfully and Respectfully, The Turning Point

During the gathering, keep an eye on the flow of conversation. Sensitive topics can arise naturally, and while it’s important not to silence anyone, it’s also essential to steer conversations in ways that are respectful and inclusive. If someone raises a difficult topic like sexual violence, acknowledge it thoughtfully: “Thank you for sharing. This is an important topic, and I want to make sure everyone feels safe and heard.” If the conversation becomes intense, consider redirecting with gentle transitions, perhaps shifting to a lighter subject when the timing feels right.


4. Emphasize Listening Over Fixing


When a sensitive subject like sexual violence comes up, it’s natural to want to offer advice or solutions. However, survivors often benefit more from feeling heard than from being given solutions. Practice empathetic listening by focusing fully on the speaker, nodding in support, and responding with affirmations like, “Thank you for trusting us with your story,” or “I’m here to listen and support you.” Showing someone you value their words without judgment or solutions can be incredibly healing.


5. Honor Boundaries and Create a Quiet Space for Breaks


For some guests, even with the most loving company, emotions can feel overwhelming. Consider setting up a quiet, cozy area where anyone can step away for a moment to recharge. Offer soft blankets, a few calming books, or soothing tea as a small gesture that says, “You have space to take care of yourself here.” Let guests know they’re welcome to step away whenever they need. This respect for boundaries can create a powerful sense of comfort and belonging.


6. Model Kindness and Gratitude in Every Interaction


Model Kindness and Gratitude in Every Interaction, The Turning Point

As the host, you set the example for your gathering. By modeling kindness, respect, and gratitude, you create a ripple effect, encouraging others to follow. Take time to express gratitude to each guest for being part of your gathering, reminding them that their presence matters. With simple acts of gratitude, you can create a space where all feel valued, appreciated, and supported.


Thanksgiving is a time to celebrate what truly matters: our connections, our shared experiences, and the love we hold for one another. By hosting with intentionality and compassion, you’re not only creating a safe space—you’re fostering a place where healing and understanding can flourish.


As we come together around the Thanksgiving table, let’s embrace every opportunity to support one another with warmth, love, and kindness. These simple gestures remind us of the beautiful truth: when we show up for each other, we create a world that feels just a little safer and more supportive for everyone.


If you or anyone you know need help, our 24/7 sexual assault hotline is available for confidential support at 800.886.7273.


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